If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there.” Genesis 24:8
It is simple to understand God’s plan for your life: is it Scriptural? is it the desire of your heart? is there a need? If the answer “No” to any of these questions, then it is not the will of God for you.
What should we look for in our friendships, and relationships? In His all-wise knowledge and sovereignty He has already set up some future events that will happen in our lives; why wouldn’t God know who your spouse is?
The bible tells the stories of Rebecca and Rachel, who were both married to patriarchs of the faith (Isaac and Jacob). In Genesis 24, Abraham made his servant promise that he would find a wife for Isaac from their own lineage and not from another; but he also told him that the Lord had made a promise concerning a certain land, and therefore if the female was unwilling, then he was just to worry about not letting Isaac live in a different land.
- God’s promises give us direction as to where we are headed
- We must be submitted to the revealed plans of God
- The Lord wants us to be equally yoked (God must be the center)
- There must be agreement between the two in relationship
We see that Abraham’s servant asks the Lord to lead him to the woman that would be Isaac’s wife. He proposed some terms so that in finding her, it would serve to him as confirmation that this person was the one. May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”( Genesis 24:16). It’s okay to ask God for signs, because He will confirm!
The Lord allows us to meet people who serve as potential spouses, but ultimately we choose. God does not have a set person for us. He cares about who we join to, and brings divine connections into our lives but we choose our destiny. The Lord can bring your potential spouse, but because of immaturity, unhealed areas of your heart, lack of surrender or ungodly/unhealthy attachments to things or people: the relationship cannot blossom. We choose what stays and lasts in our lives. For example, the Lord can bless us with a car or a job. And it could be divine in all the ways possible: divine appointment, divine finances, we get dreams, visions, the Spirit speaks, ministers confirm, angels speak! But if we handle it with immaturity, ingratitude or neglect (laziness, mismanagement, lateness, etc.); we will lose the blessing, and it is the same with our relationships!
The Lord has predestined events before the foundations of the earth: He prepared salvation (Rev. 13:8), He prepares good works for us to do (Eph. 2:10) and He called us before the foundations of the earth (Eph. 1:4)… and there are many others who God has planned to save (John 10:16). We have free will to do our own thing, and to live as we desire, so salvation (or the will of God) is not guaranteed for anyone.
The will of God, which is GOOD, PLEASING and PERFECT, is guaranteed for those whose hearts long to do the will of God, whose faith and conviction determine submission to the Holy Spirit and to put God first.
Lord God, you are good, you are holy and you are faithful. You have good plans for us, you have desires to prosper us and to establish us. You have plans to manifest your glory through us. I ask you to open our eyes and hearts to see what you see, and to understand your purposes for bringing people into our lives. I pray you give us wisdom to choose who we enter covenants with. In Jesus name I pray, amen.